It is very tasking to raise children. This is especially true when they are still young and still very much dependent on us. One of the most difficult things about raising children is knowing how to talk to them. Talking to a child like you would talk to your co-parent or another adult is not the right way of doing things. This is because talking to toddlers like you would talk to an adult does not educate them. It does not tell them what is right and what is wrong and it does not instill the right values in them.
If you think your toddler is too young to understand or to “learn” from the way you are talking to them, you are wrong. From age three, children are like sponges. They absorb every little thing that makes sense to them or somewhat makes sense to them. Therefore, if you constantly talk the wrong way to your kid, he or she may start becoming negative and disrespectful. In contrast, if you constantly talk the right way to your kid, he or she will start becoming more positive and obedient to what you are saying. However, many parents do not know the right way to talk to their toddlers. This almost always results in young children who are difficult to deal with. And in parents who are increasingly frustrated and resorting to more and more punishments to make their kids more obedient.
If you are a parent and your child is about to turn two or has already turned two and is already showing signs of disrespect or of being a difficult kid, it is time you learned the right way of talking to them. It is also time you learned better parenting skills. This is because when you gain better parenting skills and know the right way to talk to your kid, you will be able to guide him the right way and make him or her more obedient without any difficulty.
One of the easiest ways to learn how to talk to children is the Talking to Toddlers program by Chris Thompson. The program is available in the form of an audiobook that teaches parents positive parenting methods and skills. It also teaches parents how to become amazing parents and how to make their toddlers or preschoolers pleasant and stress-free kids. So if you are a parent and you want to raise your child the right way, you should definitely read this Talking to Toddlers review to find out more about this program and how it can help you.
A Summary of this Talking to Toddlers review
I know not everyone has time to read this long review so I prepared this summary for those who want a very brief review.
Talking To Toddlers is a program or course by Chris Thompson, a language expert who is also a father. The program is essentially a parenting crash course that will teach you how to communicate with your toddler and how to raise him or her to become more obedient and respectful as time goes by.
This program will also teach you how to overcome toddler or child stubbornness and how to make your toddler more pleasant. The methods and skills taught in this book are natural. They do not involve the use of physical force or negative parenting or anything like that. They are just skills based on psychology and logic, that have been tested and that have worked successfully.
In summary, I would say Talking to Toddlers by Chris Thompson is a good attempt to explain toddler behavior and to instill positive parenting skills and techniques in parents. In my opinion, it is a great program that works.
Without further ado, let’s get to the full review
The Review of Talking to Toddlers
They say children don’t come with manuals but I say this phrase has been outdated since this program was first introduced to the market! This is because Talking To Children is a wonderful program that explains toddler behavior and teaches effective and positive parenting. So it is kind of a manual for raising children since it explains to you your child’s behavior and the right way of communicating with them and parenting them.
In this review, I will review the program itself, I will tell you what is included in every purchase, and I will reveal to you who the program is for, how it works, and what you will learn from it. I will also share with you the pros and cons of the course and then give you my opinion on whether it is worth buying.
Who is Chris Thompson
Before reviewing any product, I usually try to give my readers as much information as I can about the maker of the product. In this case, the product is an audiobook and the maker of the product is Chris Thompson.
Chris Thompson is an experienced author and writer. Before he developed Talking To Toddlers, he had published dozens of articles on various reputable sites offering parenting tips to parents. Almost all the articles he has written online are very popular with parents from all over the planet.
In addition to being a published writer, Chris is an expert in communications. He learned communication basics and special communication techniques and strategies including NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) from the very famous Dr. Mike Mandel. The good doctor is a communication expert, an NLP trainer, a psychotherapist, a hypnotist, and an experienced orator. In other words, what I am trying to say is that Chris Thompson learned about communication and communication skills and techniques from one of the very best in the field.
After years of publishing articles to help parents and learning special communication techniques and skills from Dr. Mandel, Chris became a father. And as his baby started to grow, Chris discovered that he could apply the special communication techniques and strategies he had learned to communicate with his child better. He also discovered that applying the skills and strategies he had learned to his child made him parent his child better. In short, he learned that he was capable of positively influencing the behavior of his child. This is what gave him the idea to research more on toddler communication and positive parenting skills so as to develop a comprehensive program to make it easier for parents to understand and raise their children better. And thus, Talking To Toddlers was born.
This program by Chris Thompson has helped thousands and possibly tens of thousands of parents to become better parents since it was released a couple of years ago. And although it has been on the market for a while, it still remains one of the most popular programs for learning how to communicate with toddlers and for better toddler parenting.
What exactly is the Talking to Toddlers?
The Talking to Toddlers program, full name “Talking to Toddlers: Dealing with the terrible twos and beyond” is an audiobook course by Chris Thompson. It is a course that explains toddler behavior and teaches parents how to communicate better with their children and how to raise their children better. The program is based on extensive research, the author’s experiences as a father, and his communication skills and techniques.
What is included in the purchase?
Here is what you will receive when you purchase Talking to Toddlers:
1. Twelve downloadable MP3 lessons. Each of the lessons is between fifteen and twenty minutes long and covers a different topic. (More information later in this review)
2. A PDF version of the program and 12 assignment worksheets. The PDF version of the program is basically an eBook version of it. The assignment worksheets are supposed to be filled after completing each of the twelve lessons.
3. A summary of the program.
In short, when you purchase Talking to Toddlers, you get the program in the form of MP3 files and in the form of an eBook. And you get both instantly. No need to wait for anyone to deliver a hard copy of the book to you.
Who is this program for?
It is difficult to raise children especially to know the right way of communicating with them to get your message across. This is especially true when children are just two or three years old. Because it is at this age when they seem to all of a sudden be talking back, throwing tantrums, and refusing to obey what they are told.
The right way of communicating with a child at this stage of development usually results in the child getting the message and complying. While the wrong way of communicating with a child at this stage usually results in arguments, tantrums, and talking back – outcomes that no parent wants especially after a long day at work.
If you are like every other parent and you do not want your toddler talking back to you, throwing tantrums, or being stubborn, this program is for you. This is because it will teach you positive parenting techniques, strategies, and skills to communicate better with your child and to raise them better. Simply put, it will teach you how to avoid the toddler stubbornness aka the terrible twos and have a much more positive and pleasant relationship with your child as they grow up.
They say children have no manual. However, it is not impossible to understand your toddler behavior and to correct it. This is why, as I said earlier, the phrase “children come with no manual” became obsolete the moment Talking to Toddlers was released. This is because it equips parents with the knowledge to understand toddler behavior and to correct bad behavior and enhance positive behavior. It is a fine parenting bible in my opinion as it helps parents to know what to expect, to correct bad behavior the right way, and to nurture good behavior the right way.
Talking to Toddlers is for you if:
- You want to feel in control of your house again.
- You want to cry less and laugh more with your child.
- You want to cut down parenting stress.
- You want to reduce or eliminate temper tantrums.
- You want to have a positive and pleasant relationship with your child.
- You want to avoid terrible twos.
From the above, I am sure you agree with me that the program comes with numerous benefits. And despite coming with all these many benefits, you can get it for just 37 bucks. Yes, you read that right. For $37 USD, you can get this useful parenting program that will teach you how to become a better parent and help you avoid toddler stubbornness.
How does Talking to Toddlers work?
This parenting program works in a very simple way. When you purchase it, you will receive 12 MP3 files. The files are well labeled in terms of lessons and you simply have to listen to each lesson to learn. The author recommends listening to one lesson a day. And after listening to each lesson, there is a workbook assignment you have to do. This will test the knowledge you have learned and help you to know if you need to replay a lesson before moving to the next one.
Once you have listened to all the twelve lessons in this program you will know why your toddler behaves the way he or she does. You will have the skills and techniques to handle bad behavior from your toddler and to instill good ones in them. You will have easy tips and tricks to make your child listen to you or obey what you are saying. And you will most certainly have essential skills to quickly identify your mistakes and recover from them. In short, what I am trying to say is that Talking to Toddlers works by teaching you how to be a better parent and have a more pleasant experience raising your child.
Now that you know how this program works, it is time to know what exactly each of its 12 lessons contains. Remember, the lessons are MP3 files and they are each between fifteen to twenty minutes long.
Lesson 1. Introduction and Key Concepts
This is the introductory lesson. The author introduces himself in this lesson and nicely builds trust and rapport. The author then explains what the program is all about and the importance of the program. The most important part of this lesson is the author’s explanation of the program’s key concepts. This is because it makes it easier to understand the rest of the lessons in the program.
The lesson also includes information on what not to do as a parent in case your kid makes you mad and why.
Lesson 2. Double Binds and Presuppositions
In this lesson, the author will teach you how to construct double-binds so as to create the perception in your speech that your child has a choice. As a mother or father, you ought to be consistent in your communication and you must make sure that your vocal tone, body language and other aspects consistent with what you are actually saying. This lesson will teach exactly how to be consistent.
A presupposition is a query or a statement that is made in such a way that it already implies that something is true. When used correctly, a presupposition can break resistance. After this lesson, you should be able to develop presuppositions and double binds with ease.
The assignment that comes after this lesson will require you to form several double binds and presuppositions a day.
Lesson 3. Say No Without Saying No
NO is not a good thing to say to your child for two reasons. First, it makes them feel shutdown and second, it makes them become resistant and difficult. Moreover, when parents ask for things parents don’t want to give them, most parents will instinctively say NO and then give in after their children beg or throw tantrums. Parents who do this make their children feel that NO means nothing. This is why it is important to listen to what the author says in this lesson. If you listen carefully to this lesson you will know how to say NO in different ways. You will also discover how to use logic with your kid and still get your child to obey you without saying no.
The best thing about this lesson is the part where they teach the distraction method. It is really clever and allows you to avoid to say NO and play with your kid at the same time.
The assignment that you will have to do at the end of this lesson includes questions to test whether you have learned the key points taught.
Lesson 4. Yes/ NO/ Compliance Sets
Most people usually think and operate in patterns. In this lesson, you will learn how to get your child to agree with you (using yes sets). And you will learn how to handle your child when you are expecting or when you get resistance (using the compliance sets and no sets).
I think this lesson is quite short but clever. I also think it packs very important information especially for parents who desperately want to learn how to make their kids respect them.
Lesson 5. Commitment and Consistency
Most people usually act in a way that is consistent. In other words, most people are committed to a certain way of acting or repetitively doing the same or similar things. Kids also can be made to commit to acting in a certain way. This lesson will teach you how to get your child committed to acting in a certain way either verbally or physically.
This lesson is great because it gives you the skills and strategies you need to instill good behaviors and manners in your child.
Lesson 6. Reciprocity
Negotiation is the preferred way for adults to reach a middle ground. It is also a good way for you to reach a middle ground with your child. However, the best way to reach a middle ground with your child is reciprocity. In this lesson, you will learn how to reciprocate rather than negotiate. This will help you to get your child to comply with what you say more often than not.
I think it is a good thing that this lesson is included in this course because knowing how to make one’s child to comply with what is said is an important parenting skill.
Lesson 7. Pick Your Battles
This lesson sounds like it is straight out of the Christian Bible or some other religious text. But it is not. You might think that since your child is your child, they should not fight you even in the first place. However, kids don’t know that and will fight with you over anything. This lesson teaches you how to avoid unnecessary confrontations with your child. It teaches that there is no need for you to say no to everything or to go to war with your child over everything wrong they do. Instead, it advocates for clever alternative ways of saying NO and rejecting whatever you do not what to say yes to without escalating situations into fights.
I think this is a great lesson for all parents as it makes parenting much easier and pleasant.
Lesson 8. Reframing
In this lesson, the author teaches about mental framing and reframing. He also teaches about content reframing and contextual reframing. By the end of it, you should be aware of mental framing and what to do to reframe things for better communication and a better relationship with your toddler. You will love reframing your approach to parenting and making it a positive experience for both you and your toddler. All of a sudden, you will notice that some of your thoughts have been negatively affecting your parenting and you will get strategies from this lesson to eliminate those thoughts and start parenting the better way.
Lesson 9. State Management and Anchoring
In this lesson, you will learn what state is. A state is the mindset of a person. It could anger, happiness, or something else. States can be entered or left consciously via recalling past experiences or events. One can also enter a state unconsciously by triggering an anchor. An anchor is a cue which the brain automatically links to a specific state. Therefore, through building anchors for certain positive mindsets in your toddler’s brain, you can trigger them to get them to enter that state at a later point. For instance, by building anchors for happiness in your toddler’s brain, you can cause him or her to enter the state by triggering them. This lesson will teach you how to build anchors for positive mindsets in your child and how to trigger them to get the positive mindset the brain associates them with.
Lesson 9 is a fantastic lesson in my opinion and it is very necessary because it teaches parents how to cleverly change the mindsets and moods of their children.
Lesson 10. Embedded Comments
This lesson will teach you how to embed commands in a normal speech via marking them. By embedding commands, you will put stress on them and they will stand out. You can mark commands via shifting your gaze, gestures, tempo, and/ or tonal variation. When you understand how to embed commands, you will be able to convince your child to do something even when telling a fake story.
Again, this is also a brilliant lesson in this course as it teaches another very brilliant way to talk to toddlers.
Lesson 11. Dealing with Physical Pain
As your child grows up and starts running and playing more independently, it is inevitable that they will be hurt from time to time. Usually, when a child is hurt, parents tend to over overact. This often does not help such situations. In this lesson, you will learn how to deal with physical pain without overacting especially when the pain is not so serious. Overacting is not nice when parenting as it makes children crave attention. Therefore, by learning the lessons from this audio file or track, you will know what to do when your child gets hurt so that they do not overplay situations and make you more worried than you need to be.
Lesson 12. Threats and Punishments
When your child adopts bad behavior, it is important to correct it before it becomes a habit. One of the best ways to correct bad behavior is threatening consequences or punishments. In this lesson, you will learn how to threaten consequences to make your child associate their bad behavior with the negative consequences. The author teaches how to threaten consequences using a 5-step process and make your child fear the consequences of a specific bad behavior.
As a parent, it is important to never threaten consequences, especially if those which you cannot follow through as they will make your child more rude and stubborn. This is because they will believe they can do anything and not fear any consequences.
So all in all, this course’s 12 lessons will teach you important tips, skills, and strategies to parent your child and raise them as a pleasant and disciplined kid. I like how the lessons are arranged and how unique and clever the strategies and skills taught in all of them are. By reading this book, I discovered that I did not know much about talking to toddlers and that some of my thoughts and behaviors could affect children and how they communicate with me. Most importantly, I discovered so many tools to use to handle different situations when communicating or parenting a toddler. I am really grateful that I found this book and I think it is a great course or program for parents of young children under three or four.
Talking to Toddlers review – the most important things you will learn
- Lessons to help you become a better and in-charge parent
- Language skills to help you influence your kid without getting into fights.
- Tips and tricks to get your kid doing what you want without any resistance.
- Knowledge to correct things you may be doing wrong right now.
- How to “trick” your kid into forming good behavior and patterns.
- How to get your kid into a positive mindset through anchoring.
- How to avoid stressful and anxiety-ridden parenting.
- What to do to get your kid to stop bad behavior.
- How to make your kid commit to doing things by themselves.
As you can see, there are a lot of things you can learn from this Talking to Toddlers program.
The Pros and cons of the Talking to Toddlers program
- The program is in the form of an audiobook that is very well organized so it is easy to follow
- The information is shared by the narrator in such a way that it is very easy to understand
- The program was developed by an experienced parent, researcher, hypnotist, and expert communicator
- There are many testimonials available on blogs and social media that show that the program works
- The program is designed to make you a better parent
- The program will equip you with the right secrets, tips, and tricks to avoid conflict and control your child better
- The program will equip you with the right skills, strategies, methods, and techniques to make your child well-behaved
- The program will help you cry less and laugh more as a parent
- The program will make your look forward to spending time with your child every day
- It will help you to know how to switch your child to a better mindset when necessary
- It will help you to have a better relationship with your kid and with your partner
- It has a 60-day money-back guarantee which is very nice
- It primarily focuses on how to be a better parent for toddlers and not older kids
- It kind of teaches how to control the psychology of kids and some parents may not like that
- Its e-Book version is not as good as its audio version
Wrapping up this Talking to Toddlers review
This program is an excellent program. This is because it is very practical. It teaches you what you exactly how to be a better parent and how to control your child better. It also teaches you how to instill good behavior and eliminate bad behavior. In my opinion, one of the best things about it is the fact that it comes with assignments after every lesson/ recording.
The assignments help to drive the points in the lessons and point to what needed to be learned in the lessons. I think any parent who buys this program and listens to it when commuting to or from work or when relaxing at home can benefit immensely. It can help them change their mentality and their child’s mentality and it can significantly improve the relationship between them and their kids. In short, what I am trying to say is that this program is worth buying for parents of your kids under three years old.
If you enjoyed my comprehensive review or got any questions, leave a comment below
I’m Jessica Wills, most of my friends just call me Jess. I have 2 kids Astor who is 5, and Cody who is 3. I love writing and found a small passion in writing product reviews from a moms stand.
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